Sex Positions for When Your Partner’s on Top || Theres a reason why cowgirl (a.k.a. woman in top) is one of guys all-time favorite sex positions, and its not just because it provides a spectacular view from below.
When your partner (of any gender!) is on top, they can take full control of the rhythm and speed of sexwhich may just help you last longer in bed . If your partner has a vulva, they’re more likely to orgasm, too, since they can control exactly where and how hard you . Its a win-win for everyone involved.
Event though your job can get a lot easier when your partner climbs on top of you during sex, that doesn’t mean you can just sit back and relax. If you’re doing your job right, you should still be working either in the form of thrusting yourself, playing with their clitoris, caressing their breasts, and so on. You should also change up exactly how your partner rides youbecause even though cowgirl is a gift from the gods, it will grow stale if you do it every time. Not to worry. You dont need to reinvent the wheel. Slight tweaks on the classic position can be enough to up your sex game from great to earth-shattering.
So without further ado, the best positions with your partner on top:
1) Classic Cowgirl
How it works: You lie on your back. Your partner straddles you, sitting on you like a horse. Their knees and shins are pressed to the bed.
Why its good: Your partner gets to take control. They can also tilt back or forward, controlling the depth of penetration and potential G-spot stimulation.
2) Squatting Cowgirl
How it works: Its similar to cowgirl, only instead of your partner straddling you, they have their soles planted on the bed in a squatting position.
Why its good: With this position, you can grab your partner by the butt and thrust deep. So even though they’re on top, youre in control of the speed and motion.
3) Reverse Cowgirl
How it works: This one’s just like the classic cowgirl, however, instead of your partner facing you, they’re facing away from you.
Why its good: Its all booty, right in your face.
4) Leaned-Back Reverse Cowgirl
How it works: Start in reverse cowgirl and then have your partner lean all the way back, so their back is against your chest and their forearms are resting on your sides.
Why its good: While thrusting, you can also cup your partner’s breasts and play with their clitoris. If you do this position right, you can hit multiple (Note: your partner will need loose quads in order to pull this position off.)
5) The Crab
How it works: The crab is similar to squatting cowgirl, only your partner leans back and supports their weight on their arms.
Why its good: This position can really allow for deep penetration, but it can also be tough, physically. Start slow to see if it works for you two. If it doesnt, switch back to squatting cowgirl.
6) Man Missionary
How it works: It’s like missionary, but with you on your back. Your legs should be kept together, and your partner’s legs should be straddling your sides. The easiest way to get into this position is to start in classic cowgirl and then have your partner lean forward.
Why its good: Its a very intimate position that allows for kissing.
7) The Lotus
How it works: To get into the lotus position, you need to sit down with your legs crossed and pulled in close to your body. Your partner should then sit on top of you, facing you. Then they can either wrap their legs around you or place them by your sides. You should hold onto their back to help support them and to keep your bodies close together.
Why its good: This position doesnt allow for much thrusting, but it’s another intimate pose that allows for hugging, kissing, caressing, and heavy eye contact.
8) Sideways Straddle
How it works: This one looks more complicated than it actually is. Lie on your back with one of your your knees bent. The soul of your foot should be on the bed. Have her straddle the bent knee while facing away from you. From there, she can insert your penis inside of her and start grinding.
Why its good: This position, to be honest, is more for her than it is for you. There isnt too much thrusting, but she can get organic clitorial stimulation by rubbing herself up against your leg, while bouncing up and down on you.
9) The Face Sit
How it works: Its like reverse cowgirl, only your partner is riding your face.
Why its good : In my humble opinion, this is the hottest position for oral sex if your partner has a vulva. It’s also great if your partner likes to be dominant in the bedroom.
10) Reverse Face Sit
How it works: Its basically the reverse cowgirl of face sitting.
Why its good: This position is great for analingus, if you and your partner are into it. Also, if youre an ass man, your partner’s booty will literally be inches away from your face.
11) Chair Sex
How it works: While sitting in a chair, have your partner straddle you, face to face.
Why its good: This position allows for thrusting and grinding, and it’s great if your partner’s legs aren’t always up for squatting or deep straddling. Its also an intimate position that lends itself well to kissing and eye contact.
12) The Octopus
How it works: Sit on the bed with your hands stretched behind your back to support yourself. Your legs should be stretched out in front of your body. Have your partner lie on their back, in front of your crotch. Then raise their legs over your shoulders. From there, your partner can scooch closer, and you can start penetration.
Why its good: First off, its not as hard as it may look, but you’ll feel like a sex pro. Just take your time getting into the position. Its good because you can grab your partner by her thighs and really thrust yourself into them, allowing for super-deep penetration.